Can Men and Women be “Just Friends”?

I want to know why this is a debate. Because to me, the answer is simple: of course.

But a lot of people disagree with me on this, and swear that if a man and woman are “just friends” either they’re lying or one of them is gay.  My dad says that women can view plenty of guys as friends, but a male will rarely if ever engage in a friendship with a female he wasn’t romantically or sexually interested in.

But then how do you explain inter-sibling relationships, or the way you feel towards your opposite sex cousins? Most people are not romantically attracted to close relatives. We know there is a boundary there. And yet we can be really close to those people and call them friends. So why can’t that work in general? If you know a girl/guy is off limits, you should be able to look at them platonically. And sometimes I think this involves a conscious choice not to act on an attraction. There will always be that time when one of them internally questions whether or not they could be more than friends. And if the friend resists these thoughts, I fully believe that the friendship will thrive and become deeper.

It’s good to have friends. And male-female friendships have a unique value in letting both parties see into the other’s mind and perhaps grasp a greater understanding of the opposite sex.

I really want to know more people’s opinion on this, so drop a comment and let me know your thoughts.


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Also, since school is out, I’m going to try to make more posts, but no promises because I’m lazy and Skyrim exists.


Not Politics

Yeah, yeah, it’s been a while.

It has been pointed out to me that my blog thus far has been rather political.  I apologize.  I never intended this to be a political blog, though politics were sure to come up.  I plan to use this blog to give my opinion out on various topics, anything from gay marriage to onions.

How are you all?  Life has been busy.  My school choir is doing ‘How the Grinch Stole Christmas’ and I get to be– dun dun DUN– Narrator 1!  Hey, I set the scene for the whole play.

If you like, suggest topics in the comments and I’ll think about writing on them.



“Like an American”

I think I should explain why my blog is called “live your life like an American”.  Mainly the “American” part.  By “American”, I don’t  necessarily mean the people who live in America right now.   Geographical location isn’t totally void,  but it is only a small factor in my mind.

Our country was founded on the basic principles of freedom–freedom of religion, freedom of speech, freedom to bear arms, etc.  It’s all in the Constitution.  Strong, historical figures such as George Washington and Paul Revere are remembered for what they did for this country, not for their money or kindness.

The fact is, there was a time when most every man, woman, or child was prepared to make great sacrifices for independence.  Remember the minute-men?   So many of them were slain in fights, and yet they were still determined and ready to fight in a minute.

I have very little faith that more than a few thousand Americans(if that) would be willing to lose everything for their independence.  Indeed, it is exceedingly easier to lay back and let the government take care of everything.   Be good, pay your taxes, and have your favorite celebrity politicians.  But some of us do not want that.

I can not honestly say that I would sacrifice everything for America as it is today.  Back then, yes, in a heart beat.  But today, nuh-uh.  I mean, come on.  Planned Parenthood?

I think there is the possibility of another civil war; a revolution that would change everything.   Or not.   But if there is, be sure you know what side your on.

May the odds be ever in your favor,


Gay Marriage

Finally people are cooling down a bit about the recent Supreme Court rulings regarding same-sex marriages in the U.S.  I am an Orthodox Christian, and have strong feelings on the subject.

Although I oppose gay marriage and believe that romantic relationships between members of the same sex is wrong and are clearly condemned in the Bible, I believe people have the right to make their own choice whether to actually engage in relationships with people of the same gender.  Neither the government nor anyone else can force people to live a certain way, or to marry a certain way.

People say that they were born a specific way and that they cannot change who they are.  I agree. Some people are born with an attraction to the same sex.  But it’s all about the choice.  They can choose to obey the scriptures and abstain from sexual relations, or they can marry gay.  Also, your sexuality does not define who you are, just to clarify.

Don’t get me wrong.  God loves gay people just as much as anyone else.  They are after all, just people.  There is no need to give them special attention.  Love them and respect them; we all sin, and this is no different.  I cannot impress this enough: THEY ARE PEOPLE.  Take care of and pray for them like anyone else.

Now the Supreme Court rulings themselves came as absolutely zero surprise to me.  It was inevitable.

So, just everybody chill and get along.

Live long and Prosper,


P.S. Many Orthodox clergy in America, including his Beatitude the Metropolitan Tikhon, signed a letter regarding same-sex marriage. It may be found here, if you are interested.

The Importance of Friends

Almost everyone, at some point of their lives, has a friend or friends.  It is a natural part of our genetic make-up to desire companions who are like us; we want someone to talk to.  It is in our nature to want to share and compare ideas, opinions, and emotions.

Some people have many, many friends. They are extroverts, maintaining their energy through social situations and people. They want to be friends with everyone and will go to great lengths to remain in the good opinion of others, while not relishing in deep personal relationships.

Others have one, maybe two close friends who they rely on, and bond with. Introverted, these people generally prefer to be alone or with their best of besties than to be in large groups.  They typically have deeper relationships than the aforementioned extroverts.

Of course, just because you like parties and meeting new people doesn’t mean you can’t have an intimate relationship.  And just because you prefer a good book and a cup of coffee to a barbeque at your friends house doesn’t mean you don’t have many friends.

Everyone is different, and so are their relationships.  Personally I have many friends, but only three who I truly trust. I tell them more than I tell anyone else, and I know they are there for me.

Sometimes friends come and go, but you should consider yourself blessed if you have one (or more!) friends that stay.

One of my favorite quotes: Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest, but the one who came and never left your side.

Signing out,


Hello, viewers of this site!

Whether I become a internet sensation, or I am literally the only one ever on this sight, I look forward to keeping my life up to date.  It’s secret; my parents know nothing, and I hope it stays that way.

A little info on myself: I am an optimist, I strongly believe in freedom of choice, I am pro-life, a little bit of a nerd, a writer, I love writing poetry, etc, etc.

Basically I am a teenage girl trying to make my way in the world.  I hope all who read this benefit from my blog.

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