Do you ever just have a bad mental health day where everything stresses you out and you can’t seem to get a minute to catch your breath and you want to cry but not around other people? Yeah, been there.
I started off 2019 on a high note. This is the year I am gonna conquer the world. Nothing can take me down. 2019 is MY year.
And in a lot of ways, I still believe these things. 2019 has been good to me thus far. But I am no longer feeling invincible. In fact, I am very vincible. Self-care is harder than it sounds and I’m not that good at it. Like anything worth doing, it takes practice and determination. You have to practice loving yourself when you are the most unlovable.
There are a million posts like this out there. But where’s the harm in one more. Mental health is vital to living a full, happy, and successful life. So here is what self-care is, from the perspective of yours truly.
Self-care is going to bed at 9 o’clock even when your friends aren’t because you’re tired and need sleep.
Self-care is getting up at 5 or 6 AM so you have time to go for a run and shower and eat breakfast before work.
Self-care is letting yourself take the day off if you cannot emotionally handle the thought of your workplace at the moment.
Self-care is putting on your work clothes, putting on a bold lipstick, cracking your knuckles and marching out the door even though you don’t want to because capitalism isn’t gonna take you down without a fight.
Self-care is paying your bills as soon as you receive them.
Self-care is silencing your phone and sitting down with your favorite tea and a good book.
Self-care is not checking your phone fifty times a day waiting for a text.
Self-care is spending time working on a hobby.
Self-care is a long hot bubble bath, whether after a long day, or because you want to on your day off.
Self-care is doing a homemade facemask in your kitchen.
Self-care is saying no to an invitation simply because you don’t feel like going.
Self-care is calling up a friend to hang out because you need to get out of the house.
Self-care is putting on an apron, tying back your hair, and doing much needed housework.
Self-care is staying hydrated.
Self-care is spending at least 15 minutes in silence, not doing anything but breathing and existing and maybe praying every day.
Self-care is putting distance between yourself and that person who drains you emotionally.
Self-care is letting yourself cry.
Self-care is showering regularly, keeping your hair and nails trimmed, and wearing clothes you like.
Self-care is eating filling and nutritious meals to keep yourself energized throughout the day.
Self-care is eating your favorite dessert while watching the Office for the sixteenth time because you’re sad and it makes you feel better.
Self-care is going to therapy when you need it, and finding someone to talk to.
Self-care is writing down everything that’s making you feel sad, and a few reasons to be happy.
Self-care is starting a blog to talk about your feelings when there isn’t really anyone to talk to.
Self-care is baking cookies for your loved ones.
Self-care is asking for a hug when you need one.
There are a lot of things that count as self-care. I can’t speak for other periods in history, but it seems these days that anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem are affecting the majority of people in recognizable ways. Please take care of yourselves. Work hard every day to be the best version of you that you can be.
Stay strong, beautiful. This too shall pass.